The more often, it’s the good husband, with kids and family.I’ve been out partying for years in Jakarta, 5 days a week, and in each bar I went to, I met tons of them.
In Indonesia, they will meet girls that correspond more accurately to their ideas of the perfect wife. These are the three main reasons which I think can explain why so many expats in Jakarta start cheating when they arrive in Jakarta.
Temptation is everywhere, beauty, young-ness, easy relationships…Difficult to resist. Their behaviours towards men are much more traditional and less independent than that of most foreign women.
I think the authority of the man for instance is much more respected and it gives them the feeling of being in charge.
Not only more beautiful, the girls can be much younger too, and look much younger anyway.
These girls are attracted to foreigners for various reasons: Financial stability, attraction for “white” people (and the perspective of having a mixed baby), and certainly also the desire to be with someone less conservative than most Indonesian men.