” Although she had tons of gay friends and was a social worker, parts of it still scared her.But the first year that we were gay, she came to Vancouver and we went to the Pride parade.I absolutely believe that the average person out there doesn’t care. I mean when all the gay marriage heat came up in 2008 I think it was Rufus Wainwright who said, “Why do we want to get married? And they don’t care, they’re like, this whole thing of marriage.People get married and divorced 10 times in their life. My parents were divorced, which—a lot of my friends’ parents were divorced—but then my mother was in a serious, long term relationship and never married him, so my idea of what love and commitment and relationship is, is very different from the average person’s.I’m in my 30s now, and all of a sudden you see all these people getting married, and those sort of heteronormative lifestyle choices sort of become overwhelming. Someone like that to come out and saying this is something we should all have, that it so important.And of course, there are people in my life saying, “It means nothing, we need to have a federal law” blah, blah.So marriage isn’t even something I really thought about until a few years ago, and Prop 8.
They’re Western Canadians by birth, but years ago Sara Quin headed east, to live in Montréal and New York, leaving the territory left of the Continental Divide to sister Tegan.And I remember sitting there watching the bears go by, and the naked people, and the Dykes on Bikes, and I just remember having this compulsion to turn to my mom and be like, “That’s not me! ” And just one float after another, of the young twinks in their underwear all spraying each other down. But as a 20-year-old, I absolutely just wanted to say, “I’m just like you, mom.I just want to have a girlfriend and move in together and get a cat and play music and I don’t wanna get naked and ride around on a motorcycle!It’s really been in the last four years where I feel like marriage in general and gay marriage has become so relevant in my life.I feel like it’s a daily conversation I have with people and I guess it’s partly my age.