It’s true that being overly available can seem desperate or unattractive, but the last thing you want to do is play dating games.
If you’re suffering from no-life syndrome, step back and ask yourself why you aren’t having fun on your own. Play the sport you like or pursue one of your interests. Insecure people push for serious relationships for the security it brings, and people can sense that.
Dating Tips and Q&A with Yours Truly I wrote the first version of this article in 2012, and since then I’ve gotten hundreds of emails and comments asking about what to do in certain situations.
Here are the most common questions and my answers to each.
Q: I’ve been dating this person for months, and when I ask if we’re a serious couple or not, the subject gets changed or I get ignored altogether. One, they’re interested but not good at communicating or are feeling pressured and don’t like it. Other times you really like someone and it doesn’t work out, and you’ve probably wondered if there was anything you could’ve done differently. Most of us have experienced a serious relationship by accident, usually when we really like the person we’re dating and it just naturally develops into something more.The final milestone is when you know it’s official – whether you say it’s a serious relationship or not.Unscheduled Time Together When you start hanging out together without making plans in advance, you know things are getting serious.