And is there any other form of encouragement we can provide that lets him know we are interested in him, but not sitting around helplessly? And yeah, of course, guys want sex, so if you think that sex is the only bargaining chip you have then you will always feel paranoid about men using you.
It sounds like you want your relationship with the guy to progress and you read somewhere that guys lose interest after sex, and now you’re freaking out because of receiving either bad advice, or misconstruing the advice you got. Think about it – do you honestly think that men choose a woman for their one exclusive relationship just for sex?
Of all the sex with all the women out there they could be having – do you really think it’s just about sex for a man to make his choice?
I would have to imagine you’d answer: “Definitely not.” OK then, if that’s the case then the sex is a non-issue.
And that obsession leads to overwhelming fears and insecurities… which leads into acting desperate and making mistakes that drive the guy away.
To tie it up: your frequency of texting doesn’t matter if you’re truly not needy. You may notice he’s acting colder and he’s less responsive and attentive to you. If not, you run the risk of making a common, and major, mistake that might push him further away so be sure to read this next: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This...
However, the part where we have sex and he withdraws happened.
I’ve been totally cool about it, giving him all the space in the world, no calls, texts, emails.
he might not be talking to you because he feels like it’s an extremely delicate act, like walking on eggshells. He’ll feel that way because he picked up on that energy from the girl.He regards his world shrewdly and rarely looks beyond the surface of anything he sees.He is mercurial to the point where you may think he has a split personality.He rarely smiles…and when he does, his smile never reaches his eyes…so it looks more like he is smirking or sneering.You can never see through his facades and it becomes even more of a mystery.