READ MORE: Ask a Scientist: I Have Vaginal Discharge Every Day. But to be honest, even with protection, I’m never 100 percent at ease.
Every time a guy has sex with me, even if we’re in a relationship and have good communication, I think in the back of my head that he’s not committing 100 percent because he’s too worried about getting herpes from me.
(I’m glad I didn’t get back with him, for obvious reasons.) Telling guys that I have herpes doesn’t get easier as time goes on, even though I have the conversation down cold.
Since I don’t have oral herpes, I can kiss guys without a problem and don’t have to worry about cold sores on my face.
Because I know you’re going to ask, I’ll just say that I trusted a guy more than I should have and believed he was faithful to me when he wasn’t. After my ex and I split up, one day I started feeling what I thought were symptoms of a UTI.
A broken heart is bad enough, but I got a broken heart and genital sores to remember him by. I used to get really bad UTIs, so I called my doctor and was able to get an appointment with her the next day. Then my doctor told me what was wrong: I had lesions on my vagina. When I learned I had been diagnosed with gential herpes, I couldn’t stop crying. My doctor was really patient with me and explained that about one in six sexually active Americans have HSV-2. I thought that since I didn’t have cold sores I couldn’t have herpes, but my doctor explained how herpes virus type 2 (HSV-2) only shows on the sex organs. I spent some time educating myself about genital herpes — and healing my broken heart.
I’m just a person who made a mistake when I was younger and is stuck dealing with the consequences for the rest of my life. I don’t have to take a daily medicine like Valtrex and I haven’t had an outbreak in years.
Although, to be honest, if my ex had told me he had herpes (he didn’t even know he had it until I called him crying from my doctor’s office), I probably would have run out of the room, too.I probably laughed at some of those jokes, too, before I had herpes.I wish everyone was more considerate about all sexually transmitted diseases, because, trust me, no one asked to contract one.Around two-thirds of people worldwide under age 50 have herpes simplex 1, according to the World Health Organization, and around one in every six Americans between ages 14 and 49 has genital herpes, usually caused by herpes simplex 2, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.Both Davis and Carlson eventually moved past their initial panic and saw herpes for what it is: an infection many people have that happens to usually get passed through sexual contact.