Women tend to find men their own age most attractive even until they’re both in their 40’s. This goes back to our biological need to “spread our seed”.
If those words made you cringe, I’m sorry, but I’m just trying to be as direct as possible. Any way you want to look at it, complications such as down syndrome and miscarriages in pregnancy rise with age.
A caveat is necessary: You can’t help who you love.
Maybe Tony Bennett and Susan Benedetto are genuinely the greatest love story of our time.
Before I get attacked as somehow being sexist…look at the anecdotal evidence. This taboo makes some of my clients feel shameful about their age preferences. They think it’s creepy and even put them the same category as pedophiles.Older men who date much younger women make the transactional, hierarchical nature of romance explicit and reveal the extent to which men and women are still playing by very different rulebooks.In other areas of life, we gesture toward valuing things beyond the superficial. Some older men have this secret other option, whereby they get to opt out of the system: When they acquire enough money or power, they can basically trade that capital for the thing women have that’s valued by society: youth and beauty.