“The old family and social networks that people used to rely on for finding a husband or wife have fallen apart,” said James Farrer, an American sociologist whose book, “Opening Up,” looks at sex, dating and marriage in contemporary China.“There’s a huge sense of dislocation in China, and young people don’t know where to turn.” [Source: Brook Larmer, New York Times, March 19, 2013 ^-^] “The confusion surrounding marriage in China reflects a country in frenzied transition.I found the following table on Renren as a guide to dating and after looking at it: I concluded that what’s easy to do is also easy not to do. In the past girls began pinning up their hair at the age of 15 to indicate they were eligible for marriage. Girls mostly stayed at home and were rarely in the company of non-family members.But of all the new freedoms the Chinese enjoy today — making money, owning a house, choosing a career — there is one that has become an unexpected burden: seeking a spouse.This may be a time of sexual and romantic liberation in China, but the solemn task of finding a husband or wife is proving to be a vexing proposition for rich and poor alike.
It is often said – only half-jokingly – that to compete even at the lower reaches of the urban Chinese dating market men must have at least a car and a flat.Below, you will find a guide in the form of a table to interpreting "signs" in how a guy asks a girl out on a date and his actions during and after the date.A term commonly used among girls to describe men with a knack for courtship is “细心" (translated: careful, attentive, meticulous) and I think this is very much the case. S., I think girls talk about guys who are "sensitive" but it’s not quite the same thing.In China it is not unusual to find women in their late 20s who have never had a relationship.Twenty-year-old Barbara Li, a lingustics majorr from Nanjing University who works at a magazine in Shanghai, told The Times, “I’ve been single all my life.