These are the definitive rules: Under every circumstance, in perpetuity throughout the universe, the guy always texts first after your initial meeting.
Ladies, unless a guy was a #sexyfireman who saved you from a burning mansion and didn't have his i Phone handy to take your number, do not text him first.
I think this is a bad idea for a couple of reasons.
The date itself then feels like a climax, rather than reviving the dead. I try not to set formal dates at all, rather I build up conversation and banter, letting a meeting emerge from my weekly patterns or from hers. It presents an opportunity for us both to get value, rather than me having a desperate desire to close a deal. [Read: How to text someone when you want to make the first move] Texting before the first date when it’s scheduled Sometimes you both have busy lives.So I don’t want to give her feeling that the first date will be a regimented affair or that she must follow some extravagant plan. She’s already going to meet me in person; I don’t want to hound her.I want her thinking about me during the week and about meeting this busy, fun, mysterious guy.So scheduling a time in advance really is the sensible way to go about it.Even though it’s not my first option, I’ve had many cool first dates that I planned a week ahead or even more on rare occasions.